Women, Children, Love, and Marriage
Part 14
What wonder, indeed, that we have lost our way so that still we are wandering in the jungle, unable to steer a straight course through the rough and tortuous paths left to us as a legacy from the past. It is this confusion that is hindering us to-day. And our real task is to cut through the jungle, and force clear paths, so that again we may have good roads in an open country on which we may walk gladly and fearlessly.
Yet, it were unwise to be too hopeful. We cannot be architects of life. Each generation will make new mistakes, even do they escape the follies that are old. We can see a very short way along the path of life, and often we are confused. The wisest amongst us are only bricklayers, and the best can but lay two or three bricks in a lifetime. Our work is to do that if we can. We can guess very feebly at the whole design. Many mistakes must be made by us, as they have been by those before us, and often it may be the duty of a new generation to pull down the work that in sorrow we have toiled to build up.
FOOTNOTES:
[1] The English Edition was translated from the French Edition.
[2] See a most instructive pamphlet, “The Conflicts of the Child,” by Edith and Dr. Eder, reprinted from “Child Study,” 1917.
[3] See the pamphlet to which already reference has been made.
[4] This frequently quoted statement was made by Lombroso and not by Krafft-Ebing as almost everyone seems to think. It is significant that the women on the study of whose sexuality this judgment was founded were of the prostitute class. See _La Donna Delinquente_, etc., p.p. 54-56.
INDEX
A
Adoption of Children 61; law needed 61 _et seq._; fears and dangers in 62 _et seq._
B
Birth control 37 _et seq._, 163.
Boys, seduction of 113 _et seq._, 119 _et seq._
C
Cats, 15; their qualities compared with those of women 16 _et seq._
Child, effect of birth control on 39; feeling of inferiority in 49; inferiority and crime in 49; must rebel 51 _et seq._ 82, 94, 103; adoption of, law of needed 61; faults and crimes of 73 _et seq._ 99; in prison 73 _et seq._; at modern school 79 _et seq._; at play 81; sex education of 87 _et seq._, 107 _et seq._; early manifestation of sex in 88 _et seq._; savagery of 97; marriage founded on 136 _et seq._
Concealment, evils of 178 _et seq._
Curiosity, 101, 109 _et seq._
D
Dangerous Age, the 29 _et seq._
Doctors and Patients’ secrets 157 _et seq._
Dogs, 59, 60.
E
Economics, mania for, 158 _et seq._
Education, sex 87 _et seq._
F
Father, daughter’s feeling for 54; the intruder 55 _et seq._, 95; after birth of child 56; conflict with son 56; authority of, necessary 57; effect on child 91 _et seq._ 93; danger of being too fond of child 104.
Faults of children 43 _et seq._, 73 _et seq._ 99.
Freedom for children 80 _et seq._
G
Gentleman, the temporary 165 _et seq._
Girls, and seduction of boys 113, 118; playing with love 127 _et seq._ _See also_ Child.
Garrell, Vera M. (on “Youth and Marriage”) 175.
H
Husband, the old-fashioned 161 _et seq._
J
Jealousy, 44, 55, 68, 93, 95, 103, 109, 136.
L
Law, reform in relation to parentage 35 _et seq._; reform in relation to adoption 61 _et seq._; of adoption in other countries 67 _et seq._; in relation to mothers’ pensions 71; in relation to seduction 113 _et seq._; in relation to age of consent 117 _et seq._; White Slave Traffic 118 _et. seq._; marriage law in other countries 170.
Lyttelton, Dr. (on sex instruction) 107.
M
Marriage, joy in 33; 133 _et seq._ result of children 136 _et seq._; causes of failure in 139; altered views on 141 _et seq._; unfaithfulness of men in 145 _et seq._; of women 149 _et seq._; too easy 169 _et seq._; problem of unions outside 174 _et seq._ _See also_ Birth Control.
Michaelis, Karin 29 _et. seq._
Mother, and child who steals 43 _et seq._; danger of being too fond of child 52 _et. seq._ 104; supreme with child 55, 72, 92; perfect and (childless) 59; difficulty of adoptions for 61 _et seq._; love, effect on child 91; and sex instruction 108 _et seq._; after birth of child 145 _et seq._; image of, sought in wife 161.
N
Neil, Judge 71 _et seq._
O
Old-fashioned husband 161 _et seq._
P
Pensions for mothers 71 _et seq._
Play 81; love in 127 _et seq._
Pleasure, search for 31, 133.
Punishment of children 73 _et seq._, 84 _et seq._
Parent, _See_ Father and Mother.
R
Racial types, best seen in women 20.
Rebellion of children, necessary 51 _et seq._; 82; 94.
Remorse, as temptation 46; not necessarily good 98.
S
Schools, poor law 72; for delinquent 77; modern and their errors 79 _et seq._
Sex, education 87 _et seq._; early manifestation of 88; right age for 107 _et seq._
Solitary confinement condemned 77.
Son, who steals 43 _et seq._ _See also_ Child.
Spain 19 _et seq._; dancing in 21; workers (women) in 23 _et seq._
W
Wife, the modern 161 _et seq._
Wife, the young 163 _et seq._
Women, their qualities compared with those of cats 16 _et seq._; in Spain 19 _et seq._; racial types best seen in 20; as workers in Spain 23 _et seq._; approaching age, in terror of 30; search for pleasure in 31; false purity in 32; repression in 33; legal position of 35; childless 59; difficulties in adopting children by _et seq._ 61; seduction of men by 113 _et seq._, 118, 123; myth of superior purity 113 _et seq._; child more than husband to 145 _et seq._; attitude to sexual disease of 158 _et seq._
Women, _See also_ Birth Control, Marriages, Mother, Wife, the modern, Gentleman, the temporary.
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