CHAPTER VI.

MARITAL MODERATION.

Twofold nature of love.--Rooted in the physical, flowers in the spiritual.--Lust often miscalled love.--Three theories concerning the marital relation.--Unrestrained indulgence for men.--For procreation only.--As an expression of affection and for mutual endearment.--The perpetuity of the race and the highest good of the individual consistent.--What is marital moderation?--Difficulty in defining.--The reproductive sense, like hunger, to be brought under the dominion of intelligence and refinement.--The worm and the wild animals contrasted with man in the satisfying of hunger.--Jeremy Taylor's rule.--Strong words from Mrs. E. B. Duffey.--Marital moderation vs. conjugal debauchery.--Limits set by some physicians.--No one rule equally applicable in all cases.--Physical conditions of both husband and wife to be considered.--Degrading effects of sexual excess.--The wishes of the wife always to be respected.--Stimulating food, books, pictures, etc.--Importance of single beds and separate apartments.--Opinions of others quoted.--Physical culture as a corrective.--Manly mastery worth all it costs.--The struggle not endless, 85